The importance of pleasure and sensuality for Black SGL (same gender loving) men cannot be overstated. All too often, Black SGL men are subjected to harmful stigmas and stereotypes that can make it difficult for us to fully embrace and enjoy our sensual selves. This is a problem that needs to be addressed, as pleasure and sensuality are essential aspects of healthy human development and well-being.

One of the biggest stigmas that Black SGL men face is the belief that we are hypersexual or promiscuous. This stereotype is often used to dehumanize and marginalize Black men, and it can make it difficult for us to explore and express our sexuality in a healthy and fulfilling way. It’s important to remember that all individuals, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity, have the right to explore and enjoy their sexuality without fear of judgment or stigma.

Another stigma that Black SGL men often face is the idea that we are not “normal” or acceptable. This can be especially difficult for Black SGL men who live in conservative or unaccepting communities, where they may feel pressure to hide or conform to certain expectations and norms. It’s important for Black SGL men to remember that their sexuality is a valid and important part of who they are, and they have the right to embrace and express it in a way that feels authentic and fulfilling to them. 

In addition to facing external stigmas and biases, Black SGL men may also struggle with internalized shame or self-doubt around their sexual minority status. This can be particularly difficult for those who have grown up in environments where being SGL was not accepted or understood. It’s important for Black SGL men to work on building self-acceptance and self-love, and to seek out supportive communities, and resources, like the ones at THRIVE,  that can help them explore and embrace their whole selves in healthy and fulfilling ways.

In conclusion, pleasure and sensuality are essential aspects of human well-being, and it’s important for Black SGL men to feel free to explore and express their sexuality in a way that feels authentic and fulfilling to them. This can be a challenging process, given the many stigmas and biases that Black SGL men often face. However, with support and self-acceptance, it is possible for Black SGL men to embrace their sexuality and live fulfilling and joyful lives.

(Visit us at www.thrivess.org and check out THRIVE SS’ self-love and acceptance programs “WeVolve” and “Project Innovate” to get a taste of how THRIVE uses self-love and acceptance to build the esteem and efficacy of Black SGL men.)

Larry L. Walker